Thinking of running off to the monastery? (Metropolitan David, 2004)

The following is a commentary on Fanny Pappa’s Open Letter on Life at the Monastery: https://scottnevinssuicide.wordpress.com/2014/11/28/open-letter-on-life-at-the-monastery-fanny-pappas/

Note: Fanny Pappa’s daughter is Sister Chrysostomi at St. John Chrysostom Greek Orthodox Monastery in Wisconsin.

I am a lonely voice crying out for change to these injustices in our monasteries. I’m sure nothing will come of my outcry, but someone has to speak out.

Gerondissa Melani Makrygiannis, Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.
Gerondissa Melani Makrygiannis, Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.

Let these young people live the monastic life, if they choose, but don’t deny them any contact with the families for baptisms, weddings and funerals or a holiday. I know my daughter will never leave the monastery because of her seven years of indoctrination and guidance by her monastic spiritual father. Her every move was guided by him. The nuns and monks are kept in complete isolation from the outside world and priests are not allowed to speak to the novices or even look directly into the eyes of the nuns.
Are we living in the dark ages or the 21st century? We have been very upset and losing faith with our Orthodox religion, and one of the priests I know told me, “the monastery is not the Orthodox religion. It is a cult with an ‘issue’ of strong control over all who have entered the monastic life.” Is this what St. Basil wanted his monasteries to become? A place of isolation from the world and control over a few individuals who serve there just to pray 24 hours a day and collect donations for themselves and their monastery?

Aerial view of St John Chrysostom Monastery.
Aerial view of St John Chrysostom Monastery.

The Orthodox have to know how my daughter and others are treated in the monasteries and the money being donated into these places of worship.
One of the many questions that need to be answered is:
Why do all the nuns from St. John’s in Pleasant Prairie fly to Father Ephraim’s monastery in Florence, AZ, for the feast day of St. Anthony, but they can’t visit their families? Are we not worthy enough?
I ask every parent, is this the kind of life their son or daughter should follow with such strict obedience? Was this the plan St. Basil had when he started his monasteries?

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The 5 foolish virgins without oil in their lamp.
The 5 foolish virgins without oil in their lamp.

In the same forum thread, a certain Fr. Michael also gave an opinion on Fanny Pappa’s Open Letter:

After reading this post I thought I’d like to make a few comments on the article itself and on Monasticism in general.

There are a number of points the author makes about the way her daughter went into monastic life that are indeed bad, superstitious, inconsiderate and suspect. BUT there are some points which I believe the author needs to be educated on with regards to the monastic way of life.

The author states that everything was done in secrecy and her daughter was not told to inform her family about her decision. This is bad for a number of reasons: Entering the monastic life should be a celebration for everyone. Secrecy is absurd when making the decision to enter the monastic way of life. It’s like being baptized in secret without the celebration which comes from it – or making your first Communion.

The author says she was never told of the strict rules of monastic life and the complete isolation from family life. The fact of monastic rules and isolation, to some degree, is true. Monasticism entails the giving up your entire life for the sake of Christ. This means everything – family, friends, money, status, career, etc. I find it hard to understand that the author didn’t realize at least some of the sacrifice involved when her daughter entered the monastic life. BUT, the part where her daughter was denied permission to attend a funeral for a close family member was cold, unChrist-like, and hard hearted. And the response from the Gerontessa, “I receive my orders from God”, was flippant, disrespectful and out and out mean.

I also would like to comment on the part about the collecting of the daughter’s property. Yes, when you enter monastic life, you are expected to liquidate your assets and give them to the poor. What does this mean in a physical sense? Should the daughter have liquidated her assets and then given them to another body or organization for distribution to the poor? Who is more poor in physical needs than a monastery (and I’m not talking about Chartes, France either!)? There is nothing wrong when entering into the monastic life to give your physical assets to the particular monastery or convent you’re entering. BUT, again, the way this was accomplished was crass, rude and again un-Christ like.

I feel greatly for the author with regards to the horrible way she was treated . She felt betrayed and hurt which I don’t blame her in the least. The way her daughter’s entry into monastic life was cheapened by the actions of her fellow nuns. BUT most of the points made by the author in which she felt are not needed or antiquated are indeed part of the monastic life today.

I treasure our Benedictine apostolate for it’s sincerety, compassion and humility. My our holy Father Benedict pray for us always!

In Christ,

Michael+
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Geronda Ephraim and Hieromonk Pavlos (priest at Holy Transfiguration Monastery in Harvard, IL) walking along the path at St. John Chrysostom Monastery, Pleasant Prairie, WI.
Geronda Ephraim and Hieromonk Pavlos (priest at Holy Transfiguration Monastery in Harvard, IL) walking along the path at St. John Chrysostom Monastery, Pleasant Prairie, WI.
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Open letter on life at the monastery (Fanny Pappas)

Fr. Theodore Petrides, Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.
Fr. Theodore Petrides, Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.

Reprinted from the Greek Star, Opinion
October 30, 2003

NOTE: Fanny Pappa’s daughter is Sister Chrysostomi [Pappas].
I would like to inform the Orthodox Faithful about the strict control the monasteries have over our children who enter into this life. And I still do not understand, what is the purpose of a monastery?

St. John Chrysostom Greek Orthodox Monastery, Prairie Plains, WI.
St. John Chrysostom Greek Orthodox Monastery, Prairie Plains, WI.

At age 37, my daughter suddenly announced to us she was leaving to live at St. John Chrysostomos Monastery, in Pleasant Prairie, WI. Needless to say, we were not prepared for this decision. It was done all in secrecy, and she was not counseled to inform the family either by her spiritual father in Stroudsburg, PA., or by the Gerontissa in Pleasant Prairie, WI. We were never told of the strict rules of monastic life and the complete isolation from family life. I don’t blame her love of the Orthodox religion. I blame her spiritual father, who always preaches the monastic life, (that I was not aware of) as do some of our other priests. When saying her good-byes to the family members, she was told the family would be saved for eight generations. This is only one example of false Orthodox teaching, what else is being told to the novices, nuns, monks, and worst of all, Orthodox laypeople. In fact, all the heresy in church history started with only one false teaching. These priests who favor the monastic life, have a way of counseling our children, making them think it was all their own ideas and preying on their weaknesses to send them off to monastic life.

The Rev. Stanley S. Harrakas.
The Rev. Stanley S. Harrakas.

I was reading a book by Father Stanley Harakas, who was a professor for many years at Holy Cross Seminary, Boston, 455 Questions and Answers of the Orthodox Faith. He said that nuns and monks devote their life to Christ. They assume poverty, chastity and obedience. They have round the clock worship, fasting and denying themselves ownership of property. Then I wish to enlighten the Orthodox faithful who support this and other monasteries, that my daughter came with three other nuns, when we were not home, during the period of the Great Lent, and took as much of her possessions from her apartment that they could stuff in their van. End tables, crystal lamps, coffee table, icons, pictures, towels, pots and pans, vacuum cleaner, video camera, jewelry, radio-tape player, etc. Also my daughter went to the bank and closed all her accounts and had them transferred to the monastery in Kenosha, WI, which amounted to thousands and thousands of dollars. They also have her car.

Gerondissa Melanie Makrygiannis (from Patras), Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.
Gerondissa Melanie Makrygiannis (from Patras), Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.

Please explain to me, how does this set an example of denying yourself — ownership of property and entering in poverty — as Father Harakas tells us in his book on Orthodoxy? How can this be accepted by the Gerontissa, when my daughter has not been tonsured? I was told by one of our priests, yet another young woman transferred all her wealth to the monastery, before her father could close the accounts. Does this show us an example of entering with poverty and humility? The Gerontissa also asked me if I would like to have a moving van come and get the rest of her things.

St. John Chrysostom Greek Orthodox Monastery in Pleasant Prairie, WI.
St. John Chrysostom Greek Orthodox Monastery in Pleasant Prairie, WI.

Another fact of monastic life that I would like to bring to your attention, her aunt, my sister, recently passed away. I called the Gerontissa to allow my daughter to come to the funeral (another fact of which we were not informed), and her response was, “she is not allowed to leave the monastery, and for what reason did she need to go, when we will pray for her here.” I was told several times, “for what reason did she need to go.” I was stunned at the cavalier attitude for the departed. Then I asked when I and her father die, can she come to the funeral for an hour, even escorted by a nun, to be with her grieving siblings? Again, the same answer. And when I said, I will call Metropolitan Iakovos, the response was, “I receive my orders from God.” Of course we were never informed she could not leave for this sacrament.

Metropolitan Iakovos Garmatis of Chicago.
Metropolitan Iakovos Garmatis of Chicago.

Why do the Metropolitans and Archbishop of this country, let Father Ephraim hold such a tight reign on the monastic life of our children? Is there no compromise? Is this really Christ’s plan to keep our children in such strict servitude? She has not been tonsured, and yet she has no right, but they can accept all her wealth and property. Is this the purpose of a monastery — money?

Fr. Theodore Petrides Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.
Fr. Theodore Petrides Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.

As I was told by her monastic spiritual father, of Stroudsburg, PA, “She is dead to the outside world.” But he also told me the monastery is “a spiritual intensive care unit for the priests and Orthodox faithful.” Our bishops do not listen. The advice and counseling their parishioners have been getting from these priests with monastic tendencies, has been frustrating to our local priests. These stories have been brought back to the priests by their parishioners who are getting misguided counseling at the monasteries.

Geronda Ephraim of Arizona.
Geronda Ephraim of Arizona.

Fanny Pappas was stunned at her daughter’s decision to enter St. John Chrysostomos Monastery

St. John Chrysostomos Greek Orthodox Monastery in Pleasant Prairie, WI.
St. John Chrysostomos Greek Orthodox Monastery in Pleasant Prairie, WI.

Posted on May 10, 2002 in Letters to the Editor Editor: Recently I have spoken to John and Joann Pantanizopoulos who told me the account of how their son was influenced to enter the monastic life. My daughter also, had a monastic spiritual Father Ted Petritis, who lives in Pennsylvania, that guided her for seven years. I had no idea of what this meant until the day she announced she was leaving to enter the monastery in Kenosha, WI. Can you tell me if you know anything about St. John Chrysostom Monastery in Pleasent Prairie and Abbess Melaine. We were stunned and surprised at her sudden decision and the secrecy that went with it. Sincerely, Fanny Pappas

Gerondissa Melani Makrygiannis, Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.
Gerondissa Melani Makrygiannis, Abbess of St. John Chrysostom Monastery.

Editor’s Note: St. John Chrysostomos Monastery, under the leadership of Abbess Melanie, is the fourth of 16 Greek Orthodox monasteries founded by the Elder Ephraim in the United States and Canada since 1989. It is listed on the official website of the monasteries, http://www.stanthonysmonastery.org. According to that listing it is located at 4600 93rd Street, Pleasant Prairie, WI 53858 USA, its telephone number is (262) 694-9850, and its fax number is (262) 697-1581. Elder Ephraim and his monasteries are beloved by many who are familiar with them, and feared by many who are not. We refer you to the related stories and related links below for what little information of which we are aware which has been published on the Internet about these monasteries. However, as with other aspects of Orthodox Christianity, the best way to learn about them is not merely to read about them, but to experience them for yourself. Because we periodically receive inquiries about the monasteries of the Elder Ephraim, we would be interested in receiving letters from any of our readers who might have further information about these monasteries that they may wish to share.

Fr. Theodore Petrides Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.
Fr. Theodore Petrides Holy Cross Greek Orthodox Church, Stroudsburg, PA.